Negative people are everywhere. I booked a trip to get away and clear my mind. For my personal well-being and mental health. I use apps to talk to people and to get to know surrounding areas I may visit. To my displeasure and something that upset me greatly. I was told not to come and the well being of others would benefit from me not PARTYING. One, I have been sober for over twelve years. I haven't had a drink and I dont do drugs of any kind. Aspirin is difficult for me to take. My body practically rejects outside influences. That is another post. And off track, so let me stick to facts. Getting vaccinated helps. Wearing a mask helps. But for this person, a minority within a minority to tell me I am the problem is hurtful. Words have consequences. Bullies thrive on hurting others. This week I have been dealing, helping and trying to make the world a better place. Not just for myself, but others. Suicide, depression, anxiety, and loneliness are real. I struggle with all of these in one form or another. To be told, don't do what is needed for my own sanity is down-right neglectful. One, this person being told not to be their authentic self is a form of hatred, yet they did the same. Hate and bigotry are learned behaviors. I did not respond, but believe you me I had some choice and hurtful words to throw back. My inner therapist asked myself, who does this serve? Will this change their outlook? Can your actions be for the better? So I pausex, took a breathe and let this person think they won. Why? One, their negativity is not mine. Their trauma is not mine. And lastly, their issues all that I listed are not mine! Be better people.
I am going on a trip for me. Yes, we are in a panademic. This may be our new normal. A second lockdown is coming. I feel it in my bones. So for me, I need this small getaway to heal my soul. Traveling is my bliss and who knows when I can do it the way I would like. Yes, I have been vaccinated. If you chose not to, that is your choice. It is your body. I dont judge either way. There are arguments for both sides that I agree upon, however, my opinion was not asked so I dont share it. Rightly so, people should be cautious. I wear a mask regardless if people know I have been vaccine or not. Not for you, for me. I live with two family members over 55+. They are my priority. I dont have to justify myself or explain my decisions. Yes, I am going on my trip. I will be wearing a mask when not in my hotel room alone. Or driving in a car by myself. And, lastly when getting out of their areas indoor and outdoor. For those who are young, (friend had a baby, havent seen her or this angel since lockdown), for the elderly (a client, I wish I could help to alleviate someone who is all alone as a caregiver. There are a lot of people who lack empathy and care more about money then the person), and lastly for those that chose to not be vaccinated (siblings of mine, and yet I still love them. If they chose not to. Who am I or anyone to judge. This is the same hate as racism. Sexism. Ageism. Etc). Forcing one's beliefs onto others.
I am responsible. A travel nut. The person who gets calls about help, compassion, and my opinion. Why? I listen first. And still try my best to be a student as well as a mentor. Both positions bring wisdom. I heard those complaints and chose my path. Life is short. I dont want to spend it in isolation with regret. Also, my choices have consequences. How I live my life, I have to be comfortable with. This is wisdom to learn and grow hopefully. To teach and nurture. These are qualities I want to give. Not hatred. Judgment. And worse, leaving someone worst off than before we met.
The phrase, "Leaving someone better than you found them," has stuck with me. Be kind. Share a smile. Help when can, able to, and without compromising yourself, values or safety. These are the qualities mankind needs. More compassion.
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